Reclaiming My Life: A Values Reflection

The Green Room Therapy, LLC

Purpose:
Leaving an abusive relationship is not just about ending something—it is about returning to yourself. Abuse often teaches us to question our instincts, minimize our needs, and organize our lives around someone else’s emotions. This reflection is an opportunity to reconnect with who you are, what matters to you, and the life you hope to create.

Part I: Who Was I Before?

 

I remember being someone who…

I used to enjoy…

People often described me as…

Parts of myself I miss are…

 

Part II: What Has This Relationship Cost Me?

 

Over time I found myself giving up…

The hardest thing to lose has been…

One thing I never want to lose again is…

Part III: Listening to My Inner Voice

 

Rate 1 (Never) to 5 (Always):

I trust my intuition.

I recognize when something doesn’t feel right.

I believe my feelings matter.

I can identify my needs.

I allow myself to say no.

I believe I deserve respect.

 

Part IV: My Core Values

 

Circle values important to you.

Acceptance

Adventure

Authenticity

Balance

Beauty

Calm

Compassion

Connection

Courage

Creativity

Curiosity

Family

Freedom

Friendship

Growth

Health

Honesty

Hope

Humor

Independence

Integrity

Joy

Kindness

Learning

Love

Nature

Peace

Purpose

Respect

Rest

Safety

Self-Compassion

Self-Respect

Service

Simplicity

Spirituality

Stability

Trust

Wisdom

 

Narrow to your Top 10…and then to Top 5.

For each, answer:

Why does this matter?

When have I felt connected to it?

How would my life look if I honored it daily?

 

Part V: What Makes Me Feel Alive?

 

I lose track of time when…
I feel most like myself when…
My body feels calm when…
I feel connected when…
I feel proud of myself when…

 

Part VI: My Vision for a Meaningful Life

 

Imagine an ordinary peaceful Tuesday without fear. Describe your day in detail.

 

Part VII: Boundaries as Self-Respect

 

I feel emotionally safe when…
I know I need rest when…
My body tells me something isn’t right by…
I want to become someone who…
I no longer want to abandon myself by…

 

Part VIII: Letter to Myself

 

Write a compassionate letter from your wisest self.

 

Final Reflection

 

Today I rediscovered…
The value I want to protect most is…
One promise I want to make to myself is…
The life I hope to create is one that feels…
If fear were not making this decision, what would my values ask me to do?